Lots of people carry resentment and anger in their hearts. It’s normal, but it’s toxic. And it will keep you from enjoying your present life.
Plenty of you have been hurt. You’ve been abused. You’ve been abandoned. You’ve been let down by people you care about. And people you don’t even know.
Each act of wrongdoing against you might weigh on you. You think about ways to extract revenge. You feel helpless and powerless. Sometimes those who hurt you regret it and apologize. Some don’t care. Some may not even realize they did something wrong.
Letting anger and hurt stay with you into your present life only keeps those feelings alive. It only continues to give the person who did you wrong more power to affect your life day after day after day.
I was returned to a shelter….twice.
When my rescuers showed up (thanks to a kind shelter worker who took an extra step to save me) I was covered in fleas and poop. My white fur was matted and tangled and stained. My skin was covered in sores. I was deaf in both ears. I can’t explain to you how bad I felt. I was let down again and again by those I trusted to care for me.
You’d understand if I spent the rest of my life angry and resentful and didn’t want anything to do with humans. If I hid under the bed all the time and lashed out at anyone who came near. If I ignored people who wanted to pet me or give me kisses. If I spent the rest of my life avoiding humans period.
I bet plenty of you know a rescue pet who came from similar circumstances. But who is, incredibly, loving and sweet. Yes?
They know what I know. If I had let the first two years of my life dictate the rest of my life, I’d miss out on so much, wouldn’t I? Scritches. Loving words. Soft pets. Grooming sessions. Sleeping on the staff’s pillow. Laying in sun puddles with the rest of the family. Playing with toys.
If I held on to that anger and let resentment take over, my life would be entirely different today.
Are you holding on to something you need to forgive and let go? Do you want to enjoy sun puddles and scritches again?
Forgive. I did.
“Forgiveness does not change the past, but it does enlarge the future.” – Paul Boese